Life is meandering. It twists and turns, and oftentimes leads us toward and away the same things. It’s a constant balance, an ebb and flow. We might grow up in the suburbs, then spend years as city-dwellers thinking we could never change, and then lo and behold, we move back to the suburbs in mid-life. If there is one constant for humans — it’s change. And that is absolutely true in loving partnerships as well. For long term committed partners, you are traversing life as it changes and traversing your two personalities as they change as well. Sometimes this can be for the better. But of course, it can be incredibly challenging as well.
In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's certainly normal for the spark in a romantic relationship to flicker and even dim. Whether it's due to the demands of work, raising a family, or simply the monotony of routine, many people in loving partnerships find themselves longing to break out of the rut they're in to recapture the magic that brought them together. The good news is that falling back in love with your partner is not only possible but can also lead to a deeper and more meaningful connection.
In today’s journal, we'll explore some practical love tips and strategies to remind each other of the love that brought you together in the first place so you can flow into harmony, alignment, and joy this Valentine's Day.
As you work through your daily routines with each other, it's easy to take your partner for granted. You get so used to how you function together as a couple that it’s easy to forget you’re just two individuals agreeing to work together. Nothing should be taken for granted, even though it’s so easy to do. To fall back in love with your partner, take a moment each day to express gratitude and appreciation for them. Acknowledge the little things your partner does, whether it's a thoughtful gesture, a kind word, or simply being there for you. Just simply saying thank you can be delightful when it’s uncommon! Go a step further and find a way to say thank you with a gift — a silky floral robe or men’s kimono robe is a wonderful way to say “you mean so much to me.” The symbolism and meaning in a handcrafted gift can offer a translation of your love when words don’t seem enough. Cultivating a sense of gratitude, gifting it, or speaking it out loud can foster a positive atmosphere in your relationship, reminding both of you of the value you bring to each other's lives.
It may seem counterintuitive, but with our recent work from home lifestyle shift, many couples are finding they spend much more time together than they did five years ago. If you’re a couple who spends a lot of time together, remembering who you were as individuals is an important step in rekindling your flame. When you fell in love, you fell in love with an individual who was separate from you — and that person still exists! Going out for a girls night in your maxi kimono robes, or spending time with your bestie at brunch gives you a way to connect with your partner in a fresh way.
After you’ve spent some time away, of course it’s important to spend some quality time together too. But instead of making it super serious and heavy, go for something light-hearted. Couples who laugh together tend to have the happiest relationships. You could choose something decidedly un-serious like heading to a water park together! Or, do something more low key — slip into your floral kimono robe and men’s kimono robe and put on some 90s movies that make you laugh. Head to a comedy show or go to a concert that you both really enjoy. There are so many ways to have fun and light-hearted joy together when you make it a point.
One of the ways we can easily become disenchanted with the one we love is simply because of routine! While routine certainly have their place and can be helpful for many people in many different scenarios, perhaps breaking out of the routine is what your relationship could use the most. Planning a surprise can be as involved or as simple as you need it to be. You can go all out and plan a huge vacation, sweep them off their feet, and absolutely floor them. Or you can simply gift them something special just because! You could gift them a floral kimono robe, presented in a thoughtful way at the end of their hardest work shift, simply to say — you deserve a little luxury. A surprise like that goes a long way in making someone else feel seen and thought of.
Communication is everything. Often, the daily grind can lead to a breakdown in communication, with couples merely discussing practical matters like schedules and chores or, of course, bickering. To fall back in love, it’s certainly necessary to work through issues. But it’s just as important to talk about what’s going right. Make a list of everything you love about each other and everything that you feel grateful for. You can make a whole ritual out of exchanging your lists — dressed in your favorite silky floral robes with candlelight — or you can simply sit down and make the lists together and chat as you go. Focusing on what’s right is a way of cultivating gratitude for each other, and an imperative part of bringing romance back to the picture.
Falling back in love with your partner is a journey that requires time, effort, and dedication from both individuals. Love is dynamic and requires ongoing care and attention as you meet the ebbs and flows of life. By committing to that attention, you’re investing in compounding daily happiness. This Valentine’s season, we’re wishing you all the love and happiness in the world.
